Welcome to the latest addition of my BDSM Scenes, Step-by-Step series where we'll discuss how to fake a threesome. Each article in this series provides simple BDSM scene outlines that you can easily follow. We will explore the idea behind the scene, how to make it hot, how to ensure the safety of everyone involved, and even what to say during the scene.
As someone who was once new to the kinky world, I understand how nerve-wracking it can be to figure out what you should be doing. That's why I spent hours scouring the internet for scene outlines. But now, as someone with more experience, I'm happy to provide these outlines which you can use as a starting point. Use them as inspiration and modify them to suit your personal preferences. These BDSM Scene Outlines will give you the inspiration you need to build from!
Now, let's dive into how to fake a threesome!
This Scene Is...
This is a great way to live out your threesome fantasies without having to involve another person in your sex life. It utilizes different toys and mindfuck-type activities to make the receiving partner feel like multiple people are present even if it's just the two of you. It takes some pre-planning, but it's totally worth it!
This scene is sexual and foreplay-heavy.
What Do You Need?
This scene is highly unique and varies from person to person depending on what you want to simulate and the extent of deception you're comfortable with. As a starting point, here's a list of items you might need:
Must-Haves:
- A blindfold that blocks out all light.
- Headphones or earbuds to block out external noise.
- A playlist of music on a device that your partner can have with them during the scene.
- Bondage options, preferably with all four limbs tied down to the surface beneath the sub. An Under-the-Bed Restraint system can help make this achievable even in a hotel room.
- Clothing for the top/Dominant to wear that fits snugly.
Potential Items for Mindfuckery:
- A hotel room for a change of pace.
- Champagne, three glasses, and other items to create a "casual sex at a hotel" vibe.
- A cell phone that can make calls.
- Optional thigh cuffs, collar, and further bondage restrictions.
- Warmed chocolate (with optional syringe).
- A change of clothing with fabrics that the top/Dominant would never wear.
Potential Sexually-Focused Items for Sexual Fulfillment:
- A bowl of warm water or a sex toy warming device.
- Lots of lubricant.
- Multiple condoms, possibly with different textures.
- Nipple clamps.
- A vibrating anal plug.
- Hands-free sex toys for lots of stimulation.
- A realistic dildo, possibly in an unfamiliar size.
- A strap-on harness.
- A sex machine with variable stroke length and speed.
- A power strip/extension cord if you're bringing corded sex toys to a hotel room. You never know where the outlets will be.
How Long Does It Take?
For faking a threesome, a significant amount of time is necessary. The goal is to overwhelm your partner with sensations, making it hard for them to tell where they're coming from. You'll need to spend several hours prepping for the scene, gathering supplies, creating a playlist, testing equipment, and brainstorming ways to pleasure your partner.
It's best to block off an entire evening (or even a day) for the scene. This BDSM scene is most effective if your partner is relaxed, horny, and already thinking about a threesome. The action itself will last 1-3 hours, depending on how long you want to prolong it.
How Do You Prep for Faking a Threesome?
The first step to preparing for a fake threesome is to discuss it with your partner. Are they interested? Is it something that would turn them on? Threesomes can be overwhelming, so be sure to negotiate with your partner. Discuss what they're comfortable with and use their suggestions as starting points.
You'll need to test your tools of sensory deprivation and ensure that your tools work properly. Wear the blindfold you plan to use. Does it fully block out light? Does it stay in place? Also, create a playlist of music with a heavy sexual tone that your partner would find appealing and ensure it's ad-free. Test your audio-playing device to ensure it stays in place during the scene.
Clothing choice is important too. Do not wear loose clothing as the top. Finally, ensure that sex toys are fully charged before use. Nothing ruins a scene like a dead battery.
Step-by-Step Instructions
This trick requires clear preparation. Although the scene seems like a threesome, the best results come from ensuring that your partner has considered a threesome and thinks that it might happen. This will remove any questions from their mind and make them assume the thing you want them to assume.
In the weeks leading up to your expected "threesome" date, start incorporating more threesome topics into conversations. Discuss who you would have a threesome with, what you would want to do in a threesome, and even browse cam sites together to talk about potential partners. As your date gets closer, make the questions more pointed and ask them when they will be available for a threesome and if their friend is available on the date of your scene. Tell them that you want them to block off the night of your scene for a special surprise.
Depending on what your sex life looks like, you might consider leaving out some odd sexual things that wouldn't normally be around the house. Mentioning that you need to buy condoms at the store and dental dams, or stocking up on more lube and being flirty and cagey when they ask what's going on can draw out the surprise without genuinely upsetting them. Buy them new lingerie and ask them to wait to wear it until your scene date.
On the day of the scene, maximize foreplay and arousal. The easier it is to pull off the faux threesome, the less your partner's logical thinking will take away from the experience. If you have a busy day, consider scheduling texts or sending suggestive pictures about the evening's plans. Once you're in the room where the scene will happen:
Get the hotel room (or your bedroom!) ready for a fake threesome. Pull out all of the sex toys you'll need, but make sure they're safely hidden out of sight. Have safer sex items out and around, but don't get them perfect yet. Get your laying space ready for your partner to be bound to it.
When they arrive, tell them you have a surprise for them and request them to lay back on the bed or sex furniture. Pick a comfortable position they can hold for a long period of time. You may offer them a bit of a beverage to "calm their nerves" if that's normal for you.
Once they're in place, add bondage. At a minimum, it is recommended to bind their wrists and ankles to keep them from reaching out to touch their threesome partner. You can add more bondage if you want.
Add erotic touch as you fasten them into their bondage. Drag fingernails against their skin from Point A to Point B, stop to touch their sensitive spots for a bit, and let them touch your body as you bind them up. Ensure that there is some erotic touch involved to keep their arousal level high and talk up how hot their "surprise" is going to be.
Once they're bound, finish setting up the room while they watch. Get out some condoms and anything else you think would work well for making a successful threesome happen, and continue to hide some of the sex toys you brought.
When you're ready, let them know you need to make a phone call and take your phone into the bathroom. Pretend you're letting someone know that it's time but you're trying to be discreet about it. Think hushed conversation and cryptic phrases about a surprise.
Emerge successfully and let your partner know that you just "had to take care of something".
Start with a high-quality blindfold that blocks out all light to maintain the fantasy effect. While continuing to incorporate erotic touch, put the blindfold over their eyes, taking care not to give anything away through obvious toy sounds or movements.
Set up your sex toys while they cannot see you and avoid turning anything on as even the mere sound of jingling or zipping will intrigue them. When ready, knock on a hard surface such as a door, and announce "one second" in a tone that conveys surprise about the early arrival.
Next, put on the headphones and test them to ensure the sound is not too loud or painful on your own ears before placing them on your partner's head. Ask them to tap twice loudly if the volume is too much once they have both earpieces on.
As you open and close the front door as loudly as possible for added realism, continue the ruse by having a lengthy conversation with the imaginary third person. If desired, prepare warmed sex toys to enhance the experience.
Once again, concentrate on building suspense, as the anticipation can be extremely erotic and heighten the experience. When resuming touch play, assume the role of someone else, a semi-close friend who has never touched their skin before.
Use sensation play options to introduce uncertainty, using toys like feathers and chains on a stick and dragging them across your partner's skin while simultaneously engaging the other hand.
When performing this scene, always use both hands to make it more realistic.
Bend down awkwardly to kiss and snuggle with your partner's forehead and face in your unique way, while bending your arm at an odd angle to touch elsewhere, which might seem strange for someone bending over.
Play with their chest and nipples for a while, engaging in conversation and loud laughter, mimicking the behavior of two individuals awkwardly venturing into a threesome.
Touch their nipples in an uncomfortable, awkward way, possibly causing pain and lessening pleasure. Then use your other hand to rest on top of your first hand, verbally explaining to your partner how you want their nipples touched while demonstrating the proper technique. Clumsily perform the technique once you switch back to your regular self.
Consider using nipple sucking toys or nipple clamps for added sensation on their nipples. Allow your "not you" character to put them on in an unusual way, but "fix it" after they're on.
If you have an erection or desire to stimulate your crotch area against your partner, switch your pants or underwear quickly to another fabric your partner will not recognize as your own (denim for dress pants, cotton for satin, etc.).
If you do this, allow your partner to feel your erogenous zones through your clothing. It is improbable for anyone to identify someone solely by a bulge or a panty-covered vulva. Hold their hand in place to avoid straying while you derive pleasure from "riding" their hand.
Oral sex can also be used to continue the faked threesome. However, keep in mind that it needs to be performed on your own body parts unless oral sex on sex toys is something frequently done. Even with a condom or dental dam, a dildo or penis stroker feels and smells very different in the mouth than a biological penis. Stick to oral sex on your own parts for the most realistic experience.
If you proceed with oral sex, both of your hands should be occupied while your partner pleasures you. To give the impression of several partners, use a tool with a handle to "touch" them near their thighs and other parts of the body. The faux hand we previously mentioned in the supplies can be really useful here.
Talk about oral sex or brag in conversation to your "threesome partner." You may consider lifting your partner's headphones for a moment to let them know. For example, "I know you couldn't hear it, but I told him/her/them that your mouth feels amazing." Then return the headphones to their proper place.
Do not forget to incorporate constant stimulation of their body with your hands and sensory play toys. Some spanking and slapping may also be enjoyable. Always try to reach as far apart on their body as feasible to create the impression of multiple partners.
Repeat the nipple-touching experiment, but this time, do it between their thighs. Allow your "not you" character to touch them in an unfamiliar manner, such as an incredibly tight grip, focusing on the head, or painfully tugging on the balls. It could involve using the base of the palm, attempting to enter the vagina straight on, or utilizing the knuckles. Whatever it is, it should not be what your partner desires. Place your hand over your first hand and "teach" it how to do things. You may allow the second hand to provide pleasure for a while if you desire.
If you want to provide additional stimulation (besides nipple clamps) to your partner's body, consider a "set-it-in-place" vibrator. For a person with a penis, options include the Hot Octopuss Jett or the Lovense Gush. For a person with a vulva, there are a lot of choices, such as panty vibrators, butterfly vibrators, egg vibrators, couple's vibrators, and more. The idea is to find a way to pleasure your partner without requiring physical attention or being held in place.
Anal toys, particularly the vibrating variety, can also be used. Having a lot of sensation happening at the same time can make it challenging to stop and reflect on what's happening. Adding an anal vibrator provides an additional simultaneous sensation. Feel free to make a production out of it.
Realistic dildos can be very helpful, particularly ones with dual-density options. For that realistic feeling, warm it up, ensure it's dry, add a condom and lubricant, and it will feel different than any biological penis you both play with. For an added "fake threesome" feeling, choose a dildo that's realistically shaped but distinct from the biological penis in your life. Strap the dildo onto yourself while wearing pants, obscuring the feel of the harness from them during use.
The scene can end whenever you want. It's all about taking those overwhelming sensations and continuing them until your partner is content. Consider ending the scene with something that is orgasmic for you both, such as using their face for oral sex or intercourse. You might also consider using a vibrator while sitting on top of your partner while the fake "partner" has intercourse with them (with a warmed dildo).
If you want an "explosive" finish, consider having a warmed bottle of drizzling chocolate nearby. You can put it into a syringe for a more realistic "spurting" sensation. While you're busy with something else, put efforts into shaking the table or their body near where your fake threesome partner would be masturbating. End the shaking with an explosion of "ejaculate" somewhere on your partner's body (not the face - tasting the chocolate will instantly end realism!).
After the scene, decide if you want to reveal your trickery. Lift their headphones and let them know they did a great job, but you need to say goodbye to your threesome partner first. Have more fake conversation, let the door shut loudly, and then return to your partner. Use a towel or water to remove any chocolate if needed, and then remove your partner's headphones. Depending on how hard you both went, they may be extremely spacey.
Enjoy each other's presence and engage in aftercare. Reassure one another about your importance in each other's life. Keep in mind that your partner may think the threesome was real, and this can elicit a lot of emotions, so ensure that you emphasize the strength of your bond and how much fun you had.
Fair warning: Pretending that a third person was involved when there wasn't can be a morally questionable form of deception. If you withhold information from your partner when they ask about the scene, you may damage their trust
Take it Further
Usually, this is where pre-written dirty talk would be included. However, since the receiving partner is bound, blindfolded, and unable to hear, talking to them would be fruitless in this scenario.
Instead, let's explore some over-the-top ways to take this scene to the next level:
- Use a sex machine with patterns– regularly change up the sensation. Since most of us don't thrust to a rhythmic beat, the settings on your sex machine will need to be adjusted frequently. A sex machine can function as that "helping hand" when trying to fake a threesome. Ensure that the music playing is loud enough to cover the sex machine's sound.
- Seek assistance from a trusted friend. You may not be open to engaging in sexual activity with a third person, but you can ask a nearby friend to observe the scene and engage in conversation with them while they're present. With the bound partner's headphones, they won't be able to hear the details of the conversation. If your partner is comfortable with being touched by someone else, but not kissed or penetrated, this friend could provide extra hands to make the experience more realistic.
- When you need to invite them in via phone call, use a phone-calling service to make your phone ring instead. Alternatively, set your phone alarm to match your phone's ringtone. This tactic requires precise planning down to the minute.
- Add conversations to the music. Do you have audio editing skills? Create an edited playlist with barely-audible conversations overlaying the music tracks. Even if it's just one person, it can sound like a group conversation is occurring.
- Use condoms on everything. Assuming safe sex is a priority, your partner may anticipate the use of condoms. Implement different textured and feeling condoms to indicate when someone or something "new" is involved.
- Bring a large object to be warmed and placed next to your partner's skin. It should feel like human skin or clothing to give the impression that someone else is standing or kneeling next to them in a different location.
- Use a "fake hand" that can be manipulated from your armpit or another area. Dummy hands designed for nail art are often realistically-sized and relatively affordable—some even have extended handles. Warm them in water and dry them before use to create a semi-realistic, warm sensation against the skin.
- If you wish to experiment with ripping or tearing the bottom's clothes, ensure they're disposable items that won't cause distress. Most people would wear their best lingerie or underwear to an expected threesome. However, having the fabric rubbing against the body can be an additional, distracting sensation for the brain to confront.
Cautions!
It's important to remember that fantasies don't always align with reality.
Just because the idea of a threesome might be appealing to the receiving partner, a highly realistic simulation could cause them to feel uncomfortable or distressed.
(They're not aware that you've been reading articles on "how to fake a threesome"!).
I recommend establishing a plan in the event that this situation arises. It's clear that continuing the scene would not be appropriate, but be sure to mentally prepare yourself to avoid feeling frustrated about a scene that you've spent a fair amount of time planning.
Once your partner knows that you were simply creating an elaborate rendition of "how to fake a threesome," they'll likely feel at ease. At that point, you can both enjoy the rest of your time together. However, it's possible that this experience may evoke feelings that overwhelm the rest of your evening together.
