TikTok has a large, active sex community that enjoys sharing sex-positive content, teaching others how to improve in the bedroom, and revealing their deepest, darkest sex secrets.
Some time ago, a viral trend was circulating on the app. Both men and women were sharing secrets about sex, intimacy, and other things. One video claimed that guys could feel the throbbing of the clitoris when a girl sat on their lap, which sparked debates about its validity.
Additionally, there was a video that suggested that guys don't feel much when the girl is on top. People widely disputed this statement, sharing their personal experiences that contradicted it. For example, Makenzie asked, "Then why is he constantly begging me to get on top and has his eyes rolling back?" Moreover, Keeler Young added that "That's the fastest way to get a man to finish," and many other women expressed similar comments in the video's comment section.
The Cowgirl position is one of the most popular and well-known sex positions. It's a staple in many people's bedrooms. Thus, it is perplexing that the most popular position may not bring the most pleasure to those having sex.
HOW DOES THE COWGIRL POSITION FEEL?
The Cowgirl position is popular among women because it allows them to have complete control over their pleasure. This position enables full depth, speed, and angle control so that women can move and choose what feels best for them.
Furthermore, when on top, women can touch their clitoris with their fingers, ask their partner to stimulate it, or grind against their partner's pubic bone and receive stimulation that way. Cowgirl provides a deep penetration angle that is perfect for stimulating the cervix and other spots inside the vagina.
Therefore, women can have various types of stimulation during sex in the Cowgirl position. In contrast, for men, the best stimulation to reach orgasm involves the penile motion of sliding in and out of the vagina, which is achievable in Missionary, Doggy, and other positions where they're in control.
With Cowgirl, since women are the ones in control, they may opt to move up and down or grind. Since men's orgasms come from the sliding in and out motion rather than grinding motion, differences in sensation may occur between either gender during sex in the Cowgirl position.
THE FAVORITE
In a survey conducted by Women's Health Magazine, over 800 men were asked about their favorite sex position. The number one sex position was Doggy Style, and Cowgirl came in as a close second. Men reported liking the Cowgirl position because it gives them a view of their partner during sex, and the partner can control their pleasure.
Additionally, when asked which sex position they would prefer to have more often, the top choice was Cowgirl, with Reverse Cowgirl as the second most preferred position. Another survey by the dating website QuickFlirt, which had over 2,000 participants, also revealed that Cowgirl was the second most favored sex position for men.
These findings indicate that many men enjoy the Cowgirl sex position with their partner, even if it's not the most optimal position for achieving an orgasm. There are several reasons why this position is pleasurable, such as watching their partner experience pleasure and having the best view during sex.
DANGERS OF COWGIRL POSITION
Although Cowgirl is the favorite sex position of many, it's also one of the most dangerous positions for men due to the high risk of causing penis fractures.
A study published in the Advances in Urology journal investigated the most frequent causes of penis fractures, and heterosexual intercourse was the primary reason why it occurred, with 66.7% of patients reporting it. The woman-on-top position was the leading position that caused the fractures, followed by Doggy Style.
However, it's important to note that penis fractures during sex occur infrequently. With proper care and attention during sex, the chances of getting hurt are low. Nonetheless, it's always advisable to bear in mind that there is a slight possibility of injury, so when you request your partner to bounce on you, make sure they do it with caution.
BLOW HIS MIND AWAY
Like all sexual positions, Cowgirl can feel great for both parties involved. Enjoying different positions, kinks, fetishes, and toys is very personal. However, if you like Cowgirl and want to make sure that you and your partner are getting the most out of this sex position, there are small tweaks you can try to blow his and your mind away.
Sexologist Tyomi Morgan recommends separating your hip movements from your whole body when you're on top and focusing on creating sliding motions. "When you're on top, ladies, you're basically stroking his penis with your vagina. So, the same stroking motions that he has when he's on top of you, those are the same stroking motions that you have to have when you're on top of him," she explains.
Morgan recommends practicing the movements of your pelvis on your own by kneeling on the bed to improve the flexibility of your hips which will allow for easier movement when you're in Cowgirl. Learning to incorporate and switch between grinding and stroking motions in this position will ensure that everyone is satisfied.
