Dildos, one of the world's most ubiquitous sex toys, have been found in three out of four American households, signifying a dildo ownership rate exceeding 70% in the United States alone. Nevertheless, possession of a dildo and adeptness in using it are two separate matters.

Mastering the art of utilizing a dildo involves dedicating time, patience, and a touch of mindfulness towards your own body. It necessitates choosing the right dimensions, appropriate lubrication, and materials that harmoniously interact with your body.

Various purposes might propel you to use a dildo, ranging from self-penetration and strap-on penetration to anal penetration, each demanding different methodologies.

Fortunately, this guide is here to demystify the process. Continue reading to unravel all you need to know about using a dildo appropriately.

Defining a Dildo

A dildo is a device utilized for the penetration of the mouth, vagina, or anus, and it may also stimulate the clitoris through vibrations. Dildos, with their myriad shapes, sizes, and unique designs, assist in bringing fantasies to life. They are typically penetration-oriented and are composed of an assortment of materials including jelly rubber, metal, glass, TPR, tin cured silicone, platinum cured silicone, and plastic.

Distinctive dildos are also available, like fantasy dildos featuring varied shapes and designs. Some people might even use common household items like fruits or vegetables as substitutes. Ultimately, a dildo is a sexual object used for penetration.

Using a Dildo: A Basic Tutorial

Once you grasp the technique, using dildos is not complicated. To perform basic penetration, you need to adhere to a set of crucial steps. We provide a systematic guide below.

• Prior to use, ensure the dildo is clean, even if it's a maiden attempt.
• Lubricate the tip of the dildo.
• Apply lubricant along the shaft of the dildo, twisting your hands around the shaft in a circular motion.
• Introduce more lubricant to the inner and outer labia or around your anus (for anal penetration).
• Use your fingers to part the labia or gently stretch the anus.
• Gradually insert the dildo and retract it a few times to distribute the lubricant evenly.
• Clean the dildo post use.
• Retain the dildo in its original packaging for storage.

If initial in-and-out movements with the dildo cause discomfort, consider twisting the dildo instead. The pivotal rule is to maintain cleanliness and progress slowly. Beginners might experience some initial discomfort.

Using Different Types of Dildos

Understanding the rudiments of dildo insertion is just the tip of the iceberg, as numerous categories of dildos exhibit unique characteristics. Here, we delineate the steps to fully harness each type of dildo.

Using Glass and Metal Dildos

Tempered glass is the key component of glass dildos, setting them apart from traditional silicone or jelly rubber dildos. Glass dildos often boast more than one head, so utilizing both ends during the act is recommended. Ensure you use lubrication and follow the standard steps for insertion to optimize your experience.

Metal dildos resemble glass dildos but possess distinct traits. Depending on the type of metal, the texture may vary. Metal can quickly become cold or hot, so it is prudent to store the dildo at room temperature to avoid surprises. Like their glass counterparts, basic insertion steps apply to metal dildos.

Using Strap-On Dildos

Employing strap-on dildos requires a certain level of effort and skill. Strap-on dildos, which are worn around the waist for penetrating a partner, are popular for vaginal, oral, and anal sex.

To use a strap-on, follow the subsequent steps.

• Detach the "O" ring from the strap-on harness. It is typically a large, metal ring.
• Slide the dildo into the "O" ring until it fits snugly.
• Assemble the ring, harness, and dildo using the straps.
• Step into the strap-on harness and pull it up as if donning a pair of trousers.
• Adjust the hip straps until they rest comfortably on your hips.
• Tighten the thigh straps until they snugly wrap around your thighs.
• Lubricate the tip and shaft of the dildo.
• Have your partner lubricate their labia or anus.
• Use your hands to guide the dildo into your partner.
• Once you insert the dildo a few times, you can proceed with intercourse without the use of hands. Just move your hips in response to your partner's desires.

Strap-ons may vary based on their harnesses, but the above steps generally apply to most of them. Bear in mind that there is a learning curve associated with strap-ons. It is essential to focus on meeting your partner's needs rather than thrusting at maximum speed.

Using a Double-Ended Dildo

Some dildos are double-ended, usually measuring about twice the size of a regular, single-ended dildo, typically 12 to 18 inches. This might be overwhelming for a single user.

Double-ended dildos are best used by more than one person during foreplay. The following tips will assist you in effectively using a double-ended dildo:

• Lubricate both ends of the dildo along with the entire shaft.
• Apply lubricant to the labia or anus before inserting the double dildo.
• Alternate in controlling the dildo with your partner.
• Don't hesitate to adjust with your hands as necessary.
• Incorporate additional types of foreplay.
• As a general rule, at least two people should be involved when using a double-ended dildo. Otherwise, reaching orgasm might be challenging unless you have the flexibility of a professional contortionist.

Using a Vibrating Dildo

Vibrating dildos aim to induce orgasm by stimulating the clitoris with pulses or vibrations. Employing a vibrating dildo is straightforward, and it allows for a great deal of creativity. All it    takes is powering it on. You can then follow the basic steps for insertion or apply pressure to the clitoris. Some vibrating dildos may also have dual prongs, allowing for insertion and simultaneous clitoral stimulation.

Effective Strategies for Utilizing a Dildo

Upon becoming comfortable with the basic usage of a dildo, it becomes opportune to explore ways to enhance your pleasure further. There are numerous strategies to elevate your dildo experience. After acquainting yourself with the fundamentals, it's perfectly rational to escalate your pleasure using some inventive techniques.

Create Rhythm

Sexual activity isn't just a matter of the pace at which a penis, or dildo, can be inserted. The complex dynamics of sex contribute significantly to a pleasurable experience, and rhythm is among the most impactful elements. When utilizing a dildo, initiate with a slow pace and progressively increase to faster motions. This gradual build-up can significantly intensify the overall experience. Altering the rhythm by fully removing the dildo or pausing while it's inserted can also bring about variety. Changing the directional movement, such as moving side-to-side, can help vary the rhythm too.

Prioritize the Clitoris

The National Institute of Health has reported that only half of women orgasm from penetration alone. Thus, merely using a dildo for penetration may not provide optimum satisfaction for everyone. Fortunately, clitoral stimulation can be combined with dildo use. This can be done by manually stimulating the clitoris during dildo insertion. For an added intensity, consider using a vibrating dildo, some of which are designed to stimulate both penetration and clitoral contact simultaneously.

Explore Diverse Dildo Designs

The diverse array of dildo designs can significantly influence the user's experience. For instance, curved dildos can access areas unreachable by standard designs. Additionally, thicker dildos offer a different sensation compared to long, slim ones, which provide deeper penetration. There is also the option to experiment with 'fantasy' dildos that bring a unique dimension to the experience. These may take unconventional forms, such as tentacles, hammers, or even hands.

Guidelines for Dildo Cleaning

Keeping your dildo clean is a vital aspect of its maintenance. Neglecting to clean your dildo may lead to skin irritations, sexually transmitted diseases (particularly if shared), and other infections. Ensure that your dildo is cleaned before its initial use and after each subsequent use.

Outlined below are the steps to effectively clean your dildo:

• Rinse the tip and shaft under warm water, twisting your hand around the shaft in a downward motion towards the base. This should be done in a circular movement to eliminate excess bodily fluids and lubricant.
• Apply your preferred sex toy cleaner or soap on the dildo's surface and spread it uniformly.
• Grip the bottom of the dildo in one hand and twist your other hand around the shaft. For dildos with a 'foreskin', ensure you clean underneath it!
• Continue to scrub the surface with your hands for around two to three minutes. Cloth rags may also be useful, depending on the dildo's material.
• Rinse the dildo under warm water to eliminate excess soap.
• Dry your dildo with a lint-free cloth.
• Allow the dildo to air dry and store it safely on a soft surface, separate from other toys.

Adhering to these steps will ensure the cleanliness of most dildo types. However, boiling water can be used for non-porous dildos like those made of silicone.

Additionally, always store your dildo in its original packaging. This practice is the safest way to keep it free from airborne or surface contaminants.

Concluding Remarks

Dildos can offer unprecedented orgasmic experiences when utilized correctly. Always adhere to the appropriate steps for cleaning, insertion, and use of a dildo. Neglecting the proper techniques could lead to infections, skin irritations, and discomfort.